The cat was still alive and was obviously pregnant. (. We’ve taken him to a few vets one of which suggested reflux was root cause and gave some kitty-strength pepcid which worked for a while. 2. I do try to give her space but she rubs my legs for attention so I give her a rub then she bites. It’s about working your way toward fixing as much as possible, so there’s as little friction as possible at home. Even trying to pet her sometimes she snaps. But before you judge me, judge the greedy vets who only care about getting paid! This cat is super friendly and well behaved. she was pregnant stray and I kept her and two kittens. She is incredibly reactive to outdoor cats and takes her rage out on our male cat. Most of the time, I like my cat. There are times they are still curled up together and affectionate, but because the orange beast will randomly go crazy, my gray cat feels safer staying out of site. But I would advise you to do your absolute best to make the negatives of having your cat far less present in your life. We already had two cats at the time two males. I hummed and hawed, until I said yes, and then when we went to the SPCA, they had both been adopted! She still peed on everything. My old roommate would chase him around and scream at him, I mentioned to her that that was not helpful. I tried to give her away to my sister in law who is a cat person but she (the cat) refused to eat at all and had to be hospitalized for starvation. I’ve loved cats my whole life and always thought only awful people got rid of pets… How do I change this? Her personality is not her fault but I just can’t imagine living with this cat for the next several years. It’s so pricey. Have two pet cats, Avery & Bjorn, whom I love to bits. Right now it’s mostly a me thing. Totally understand the sentiment of not wanting cat hair all over blankets and pillows – if only there were an easy way to keep the fluffy stuff from getting absolutely everywhere they go! I have thought of trying to find a new home for him almost obsessively and I hate myself. Cats can be rainbows and butterflies, but they have claws, too at the end of the day. I absolutely empathize with you being frustrated and resenting him for the things he does, but I wouldn’t write him off as being impossible to change. Also make sure that you are not feeding your cat at night or in the morning, as he may think if he bothers you enough you will feed him. We switched cat foods but he’s extremely particular and will only eat a specific, expensive, organic food. Before you try training your cat to stop doing certain things, I’d advise you to make absolute sure nothing is wrong with your cat and/or his or her environment first. But I’m tired of my home smelling like urine and amonia. For a long time I felt like I wasn’t close to her but that I would keep her for his sake, and now her quirky-cute behvaviours have grown on me to the point where I quite like her, albeit her lack of interest in being loved by me. Just some ideas. Of course everytime she catches a mouse I take her to the vet and have a full health check on her after a lovely (sarcasm) visit to the ONLY cat groomer in a 150 mile radius. I’m not sure what would be best to recommend because I don’t have anxiety over open doors, so please let me know if any of these suggestions won’t work. It is the most commonly used letter in many languages, including Czech, Danish, Dutch, English, French, German, Hungarian, Latin, Latvian, Norwegian, Spanish, and Swedish. I don’t want to, but we may have to give him up to the shelter because I don’t know what to do! I wish they would just die! Get a timed feeder. She will follow you around and cry all day for more food, even minutes after you just fed her. At first Simba (the cat) was fine. Start by saying “No!” sternly when the cat does things you don’t want, and play with him extra often (15-30 min a day) to get all his energy out in the mornings; make sure he has a scratching post to scratch up (instead of the blinds!) Clawed both sides of my arm! She just irritates me,,,but I cant give her away she is their mother and she still cleans and cuddles her kids etc..I adore the other two to death…They have personalities and are funny and interact in a way that I adore, but the mother just wants to sit on me. She is vicious. Once he seems ready and starts sniffing at the door to come out, allow him visits outside to the rest of the house, then back in his safe room. I can’t fix any of these problems for sure, but if you’re willing to try I have literally just two tips that I think should help *a lot* with potentially fixing all of these issues combined – again if you’re willing to try: 1. She bit me one time. She is a sound sleeper (I am easily woken) and doesn’t mind a few scratches or a mess. He has so many toys, a huge house play thing, tunnels, balls the lot. This is far too much for me. I’ve had her for several months now, and am finding that we aren’t bonding. Facts about cats, training tips, odd behaviours, pet care advice - I talk as much as I can about it all here! We have to separate them and do supervised reintroductions and it’s incredibly stressful for everyone in the house. He may even like all guests in due time. Again, I am so sorry. He lets me scratch his head & chin, but he’ll rip my arm to shreds if I touch anything else. However, whenever I need to hold her still, like when cleaning her eye boogers or putting medicine in her ear, she is violently impossible. Here’s why. My new cat tried eating soap before (= diarrhea), and since this feeder, he doesn’t try eating random things anymore (crossing fingers this continues). Allow him to really get comfortable in that room if he’s happy to stay in only there, and interact with him quite often in it. Good luck! Even if he does get attention he will do these things because he enjoys being naughty. Still, this behavior is making me insane. One room is enough for two cats if you make the most of it. Don’t apologize at all – I’m so sorry about all of this , That last part is heartbreaking to me, where you explained how close you were and that you used to adore him . Could also be the litter if you’re not using the same one as the one you used with your old cat, so switch to the one you used to use if that’s changed. To teach him ankle biting is okay, the gist is you need to tell him, “No!” whenever it happens and then ignore him – don’t give him the attention or the play or the things he wants, or he’ll repeat. I appreciate it. We hired people from a pet rescue organisation to help care for college-cat since I knew they’d be comfortable giving meds, sub-Q, feeding and it helped having someone else do it. I had at one point considered taking him back to the shelter we adopted him from. Change feeding times to start right before you leave for work and feed him right before you head off for bed. By the time I was finally able to leave, the damage was already done. A surgery that there is no guarantee we won’t need again and again and again (from Jeffrey continuing to eat plastic / foil)? I wish I could re-home my cats but they would need to go together since they are pretty bonded and my husband won’t give the one cat up. The cat hadn’t even been to the vet in years until I came along, noticed he had trouble breathing and scheduled AND paid for his vet appointment. My two cats came into my life when my boyfriend and I moved in together. Cats don’t actually hate their owners, but they will act in ways that may make you think they hate you due to something being wrong with them, or due to there being an issue with their environment. Maybe you should be looking to re-home Felix. He’ll come out cautiously, but probably 8 out of 10 times he’s chased off. Penny has to be touching me all the time…she won’t let the kitten twins (who are now age 6) cuddle her though they’d both love to show her affection and sleep near her any chance they get…. Thank you for your service to our Country!! If you need advice let me know, but absolutely keep all the cats out of their carriers throughout the day, but your two safe in your room, and theirs in the rest of the house. For me I will spend hours curled up in a ball screaming for my cat to stay away from me when she tries to give me disgusting “presents” of mice. I’d then try to “smell” like your new partner (spraying your partner’s body mists and such for a weekend for instance) to see if he can start to associate you with the positive emotions he has created with your new partner. Stick to “No!” for everything so she understands the word and will eventually register what part of her behaviour is to your disliking. So sorry, Steph You have the simplest and easiest fixes of them all. Eventually, he’ll figure out another way to tell you he wants something, like by tapping you instead of biting. Facebook. He doesn’t really scratch anything, doesn’t bite, doesn’t hiss, and is generally friendly. My question is why these soap-box-braying, self-important, self-righteous cat people aren’t willing to take in a perfectly good cat when the current family can’t support it any more. Many times she hisses at me, or hides. Do I think these thoughts and emotions are common? As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases; learn more here. She will bite you unprovoked and draw blood. “I honestly feel like biting her sometimes to teach her how it feels.” < quite literally made me laugh out loud If a door is closed that she wants open, or if you are trying to do laundry, she will cry out as loud as she can because she doesn’t like the sound of the washer. She doesn’t want to play or be petted or anything, just more food. I know it seems callous to say but aren’t cats supposed to be independent. My boyfriend of course wanted to take her home. Why don’t you just drive somewhere very far & drop the cat off & just drive away from your problems? If I close the door to keep him out, he’ll just pat at it endlessly. My kitten is 26weeks old had him from 8 weeks. While not, in my opinion, the majority – many cats are completely indifferent to the preferences of their owners and will do what they want, when they want, completely unconcerned by how it makes their pet owners feel and react. In the meantime, I’d advise investing in a white-noise machine or an air purifier that will create white noise. For now, do your best to “reset” with your emotions for him. When I have guests over now I’m giving him attention and when he’s hyper I redirect his energy on his toys and prompt my guests to do so as well. His fur flies through the air and is nearly impossible to clean. We kept her an indoor cat. Got them around the same time several years ago. He cries ALL THE TIME for attention and I’m starting to hate him. He cries all the time. It’s like I wrote that. I have two cats. It's a kitten and since most cats at all ages are nocturnal, they are the most active at night. Guests think it’s cute, but this makes my anxiety so high that I can’t do anything else. Let me know how it goes with changing the crunchies. My apartment is really small, and when I’m off from work he would follow me every where I go, he demands to see me and I to see him every minute. Landlords are becoming more accepting out of necessity, especially with cats and small dogs, there are more and more people willing to stop over and take care of a pet for you on vacation if you do the same for them. Join me & my furries in our little corner of the feline-obsessed world. It only started after our son was born and become mobile. What irritates me even more is how my husband just ignored these problems for so long. She’s homeless so I’m trying to do my part to help her as she figures things out. Cats hate change, and he’s had to deal with lots of new people, a new kitten, and a medical condition all while recovering from a horrifying experience with an abusive human. About 20% of the time, she is the kindest, most lovable animal you’ll meet. There may be some simple fixes for things that feel like impossible or even “not the biggest” problems. Thank you very much for your reply. The cause of my hatred is due to living with them while having allergies to them. I wish you the best of luck, and if you do try any of this out, or even if you don’t – please keep me updated! He’s mine and I’m his bonded human but this little guy that has given me so much joy is now the center of my hatred. I’ve written up a large number of articles on cat training, and will continue to do so considering I believe training cats out of bad behaviours is ultimately good for both cats their owners. She does it when she hears me coming up the stairs after work. He definitely sounds like a rambunctious cat and not at all the average easy-to-train type. My gray cat is very loving and always looking for attention. That part of the cat makes me feel awful for being so incredibly angry about the rest of her behavior. Luckily I don’t have carpet, thanks to two hurricanes. She will attack and stalk him for a week or two (won’t let him eat, drink, use the litter box, etc) until she finally calms down. When the 30mins were up I discovered that he defecated on MY blanket on MY bed! Well, ends up this rescue wasn’t exactly legit, not only got shut down, but the head of the rescue actually got sent to jail for not shutting down their operations As told. I’m not sure I could live without one anymore though. I think the fact that it’s a fear of yours makes it much harder, but I absolutely don’t think they aim at the eye or anywhere at all when they hit back. First of all, I just want to thank you for being nonjudgmental and allowing a space for this—I have been afraid of telling anyone how I feel about my cat but it’s starting to become an overwhelming resentful feeling. As a side, he’s bit both my mom and he attacked my brother’s foot but never has he so blantantly attacked me nor has he ever defecated anywhere besides his litter box (which I give proper upkeep). Sometimes negative emotions just bubble and build out of frustration and hurt. What he can’t chew he licks- laundry baskets, baby toys, etc. I wish that he at least would not do these things. So much stress when he starts meowing at the top of his lungs at 3 am when I work early. This has made me start to see him in a new light and begun repairing my relationship with the fuzzy beasty. Get your cat checked out a the vet if you haven’t had a check up lately. my best cat died. Put your mind at ease with facts that you may not need now, so you don’t feel trapped and you always know the truth, which is that you have options. What you can do to resolve his issue with guests is simple – have them interact with him, but not by petting him, have them feed him or play with him in ways that need no physical contact. FREE CAT! This cat honestly makes me want to just change my major and I have never felt like this before and resent him for making me hate what I love to do. A happier pet parent after all makes for a happier household for any pet. Don’t hate cats. 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